1 Samuel 15:18-23, Attitude of Gratitude, Divorce, Galatians 6:7-9, Genesis 2:23-24, God Created Marriage, Godly Marriage, Gratitude, Happiness, Hebrews 4:12-16, Holiness, Malachi 2:14-17, Marriage, Matthew 19:3-9, Matthew 5:31-32, Thankfulness, Thanksgiving
Bible Ballistics: BBs #602 A Month Of Gratitude??? #4
Today I want to share a truth that is special to me: I am thankful today that God’s Word still stands true! God gives us His truth for a reason—because HE is God, and He knows that HIS way is the best way, and HE loves us! It’s not always the easy way (in fact, it’s almost never the easy way); it’s hardly ever the popular way; and it’s even more seldom the way that appeals to the world. What brought all this up today? I saw something on social media; something that hit my heart with a thunderous boom, and I must speak to it, because it’s the same subtle misinformation that helped to lead me astray many years ago.
To start with, let me say that I understood the ‘context’ of the message, and while it is partly true, it is also based in that which is far less than God’s Word purports! The first line of the ‘post’ is what jumped out at me, it said in part, “divorce IS ok”! In essence it was referring to difficult marriages, yet when we fail to apply God’s truth, we can so easily be led astray and twist God’s truth unwittingly. The post went on to talk about walking away, changing directions, starting over, and other issues regarding “divorce”! But the thing that cut me to the quick, was the last part of the post—which said something like, “don’t stay where you’re not HAPPY!” That was the very lie that led me to abandon my marriage over 45 years ago—the lie that some of my friends—my Christian friends—even a pastor, told me, and it was just what I wanted to hear! The pastor told me that “God never intended for some people to ‘be’ married, and God wanted me to be “happy”! Oh, how justified I felt, knowing that I wanted to excuse my selfish lust and the determination to make ‘myself’ happy, by choosing to leave a marriage that “didn’t make me happy” for one that I was determined would make me “happy”! All because I was willing, even eager, to believe the lie that justified my selfish, sinful choice!
God is more concerned about my holiness and my character than my “happiness”! And while I have never (and never will) counsel a woman (or a man if it applied) to stay in a dangerous environment, I will counsel them to pursue God and not the simple solutions of the world—no matter how cutesy or soothing they may seem—yet to be out of harm’s way. God ever stands by HIS Word and He will meet those who obey Him where they are! Yes, praise God, forgiveness is found in Jesus, but there are consequences for abandoning the clear principles of God and His Word; and He will direct, protect the weak, and guide those in danger as they pursue Him! Yet today America’s families are reaping the consequences of forsaking the truths of God’s Word, whether intentionally or due to ignorance, or willfulness! I don’t usually go on so much without sharing scripture, but I wanted to explain the circumstances and context of what I want to share. I pray that this will help someone know truth and avoid the pitfalls that caused so much harm in my own life. Every choice has a consequence, and we always reap more than we sowed—later than we sowed. Praise God for forgiveness and restoration, but even more for the grace to avoid the pitfalls, and I thank HIM and praise HIM for that truth!
“Be not deceived;
God is not mocked:
for whatsoever a man soweth,
that shall he also reap.
8 For he that soweth to his flesh
shall of the flesh reap corruption;
but he that soweth to the Spirit
shall of the Spirit reap life everlasting.
9 And let us not be weary
in well doing:
for in due season
we shall reap,
if we faint not.” Galatians 6:7-9
He is waiting to hear from YOU—and He stands behind HIS Word!
“For the word of God
and sharper than any twoedged sword,
piercing even to the dividing asunder
of soul and spirit,
and of the joints and marrow,
and is a discerner
of the thoughts
of the heart.
13 Neither is there any creature
that is not manifest
in his sight:
but all things are naked
unto the eyes of him
with whom we have to do.
14 Seeing then that we have a great high priest,
that is passed into the heavens,
Jesus the Son of God,
let us hold fast our profession.
15 For we have not an high priest
which cannot be touched
with the feeling of our infirmities;
but was in all points
tempted like as we are,
yet without sin.
16 Let us therefore come boldly
unto the throne of grace,
that we may obtain mercy,
and find grace to help
in time of need.” Hebrews 4:12-16
Please don’t give up on what God hasn’t given up on—and if HE tells you to leave, make sure it’s God not the enemy. Then trust HIM for each step that you take, and walk in obedience to His Word, His grace, and His direction. God created the home, He established marriage, and He blesses husbands and wives who will pursue Him—and when we will each draw closer to God, we will draw closer to each other—Imagine a triangle with God at the top, husband and wife at each of the bottom corners, then as you move from each corner toward God, you’ll see that the spouses draw closer together as well. “Think on these things..” (See Philippians 4:8)! Note that “putting away” =divorce, in the passage below.
“Yet ye say, Wherefore?
Because the LORD hath been witness
between thee and the wife of thy youth,
against whom thou hast dealt treacherously:
yet is she thy companion,
and the wife of thy covenant.
15 And did not he make one?
Yet had he the residue of the spirit.
And wherefore one?
That he might seek a godly seed.
Therefore take heed to your spirit,
and let none deal treacherously
against the wife of his youth.
16 For the LORD,
the God of Israel, saith
that he hateth putting away:
for one covereth violence
with his garment,
saith the LORD of hosts:
therefore take heed to your spirit,
that ye deal not treacherously.
17 Ye have wearied the LORD with your words.
Yet ye say, Wherein have we wearied him?
When ye say,
Every one that doeth evil
is good in the sight of the LORD,
and he delighteth in them;
or, Where is the God of judgment?” Malachi 2:14-17
Jesus Himself emphasized the import of marriage, and along with Paul’s writings, told us that adultery, desertion and abandonment were just reasons for divorce (not irreconcilable differences!)!
“It hath been said,
Whosoever shall put away his wife,
let him give her a writing of divorcement:
32 But I say unto you,
That whosoever shall put away his wife,
saving for the cause of fornication,
causeth her to commit adultery:
and whosoever shall marry her
that is divorced
committeth adultery.” Matthew 5:31-32
And I’ll simply say that I don’t believe those who claim that when a person is ‘divorced’ they are always an “adulterer”, but I do believe that when we have divorced without biblical cause, we will ever carry the weight of having “adulterated” a marriage in disobedience to God! I know that God forgives, heals and restores even those of us who have disobeyed Him, but it’s so much better to obey. Samuel spoke profoundly in regard to that!
“And the LORD sent thee on a journey, and said,
and utterly destroy the sinners the Amalekites,
and fight against them
until they be consumed.
19 Wherefore then didst thou not obey
the voice of the LORD,
but didst fly upon the spoil,
and didst evil in the sight of the LORD?
20 And Saul said unto Samuel,
Yea, I have obeyed the voice of the LORD,
and have gone the way
which the LORD sent me,
and have brought Agag the king of Amalek,
and have utterly destroyed the Amalekites.
21 But the people took of the spoil,
sheep and oxen,
the chief of the things
which should have been
to sacrifice unto the LORD
thy God in Gilgal.
22 And Samuel said,
Hath the LORD as great delight
in burnt offerings
as in obeying
the voice of the LORD?
Behold, to obey is better than sacrifice,
and to hearken than the fat of rams.
23 For rebellion
is as the sin of witchcraft,
is as iniquity and idolatry.
Because thou hast rejected
the word of the LORD,
he hath also rejected thee
from being king.” 1 Samuel 15:18-23
Every choice has a consequence—for saved or lost, but obedience is ever the joy of the Lord! Will you hear/listen to men or God?
“The Pharisees also came unto him, tempting him,
and saying unto him,
Is it lawful for a man to put away his wife
for every cause?
4 And he answered and said unto them,
Have ye not read,
that he which made them
at the beginning
made them male and female,
5 And said, For this cause
shall a man leave father
and shall cleave
to his wife:
and they twain
shall be one flesh?
6 Wherefore they are no more twain,
but one flesh.
What therefore God hath joined together,
let not man put asunder.
7 They say unto him,
Why did Moses then command
to give a writing of divorcement,
and to put her away?
8 He saith unto them,
Moses because of the hardness of your hearts
suffered you to put away your wives:
but from the beginning
it was not so.
9 And I say unto you,
Whosoever shall put away his wife,
except it be for fornication,
and shall marry another,
and whoso marrieth her which is put away
doth commit adultery.” Matthew 19:3-9
Jesus makes it clear that it was God speaking in Genesis 2; declaring that the “two” shall become “one flesh”—not just sexually, but also spiritually walking and serving God together with one heart, mind and spirit!
“And Adam said,
This is now bone of my bones,
and flesh of my flesh:
she shall be called Woman,
because she was taken out of Man.
shall a man leave his father and his mother,
and shall cleave unto his wife:
and they shall be one flesh.” Genesis 2:23-24
So, my friends we can choose to listen to the world, and be deceived, or we can choose to follow God; no matter how often we have failed, we can receive of all His grace, mercy and truth. Bring it to Jesus, and don’t fall for the subtle lies of the enemy. We can KNOW truth if we will but turn to Jesus! Be sure and remember to bring your questions and troubles to that:
“…throne of grace,
that we may obtain mercy,
and find grace to help
in time of need”!
That’s what I’m thankful for today! How about you? (I didn’t mean for this to be so long, but I feel that it is an important message from God for each of us. Especially in this broken world which is continually defying God’s truth—may we ever “stand fast in the evil day”)! I am so thankful for that “throne of grace”! I pray that you know it is there for YOU!
Amen and Amen.